Discovering the Real You: A Guide to Self-Discovery and Healthier Relationships

No matter where you are on your journey, there’s always room for growth.

Welcome! Today, we’re on a journey to help you learn more about yourself and how you connect with others. Sometimes, life and relationships feel confusing, but by learning more about how we think and act, we can make our lives—and relationships—better.

We’ll explore three amazing books that can teach us a lot about ourselves:

  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson
  • Attached by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
  • The Origins of You by Vienna Pharaon

    These books share simple ways to understand why we are the way we are. They also give us tools to help us grow, heal, and improve relationships.

     

    1. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

    This book explains that some of our parents may not have known how to support us emotionally. Maybe they were kind but didn’t know how to show feelings, or maybe they expected us to “grow up” too fast.

    Imagine your parent is like a tree that stopped growing. Because they didn’t grow in some emotional ways, they couldn’t teach us about handling big feelings. If this sounds like your experience, this book says it's okay to notice it—and that this awareness helps us grow.

    How it helps us: Knowing this can help us stop blaming ourselves and start focusing on our own growth. We don’t have to change others; instead, we get to improve our lives and make choices that support us.

    2. Attached

    Ever wonder why some people cling to others, while others stay cool and calm, and some even push people away? The book Attached helps explain this through something called “attachment styles.” There are three main styles:

    • Secure: Feels safe and comfortable with closeness.
    • Anxious: Needs extra reassurance to feel loved.
    • Avoidant: Likes independence and may struggle with closeness.

      By learning your attachment style, you’ll understand why you feel the way you do in relationships. For example, if you feel nervous when someone doesn’t reply to you quickly, you might have an anxious style.

      How it helps us: By understanding our style, we can learn how to feel better in relationships and communicate what we need from others.

      3. The Origins of You

      Vienna Pharaon helps us dig into our past to understand our present. Imagine your life is a big book, and every chapter is part of who you are today. Sometimes, things from our childhood shape how we feel and act now. But we can rewrite parts of our story if they no longer serve us.

      For example, if we were shy as kids and still feel nervous around new people, we might ask, “Why do I feel this way?” This book shows us how to find answers and let go of the habits we don’t need.

      How it helps us: When we understand where our habits come from, we can decide which ones we want to keep and which ones we want to change. This helps us become our best selves!

      Start Growing!

      We want you to find more about who you are! Here are some quizzes to get started (Reminder: Answer honestly):

        Exploring your attachment style, love language, and personality can teach you so much. Use these tools for you—to know yourself better, improve your life, and build stronger connections with others.

        Self-discovery is a journey, and every small step helps you grow. Remember, this journey is all about choosing to become the person you want to be.

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